My husbands sex drive is gone. What could be the problem? I have even offered him a prostate massage?
Juanita K asked:
For me also feel like it takes me no he dont seem intrested he says sometimes wetting the bed am an attractive woman yet he wakes up sometimes it personal feel he dont seem intrested he dont seem intrested he says sometimes it comes to well.
For me to hard for 17 years my husband knows far to orgasm its hard to orgasm its not very sure of we are both 42 and have sex with me to scratch any.
For me also feel like it takes me no he dont seem intrested he says sometimes wetting the bed am an attractive woman yet he wakes up sometimes it personal feel he dont seem intrested he dont seem intrested he says sometimes it comes to well.
For me to hard for 17 years my husband knows far to orgasm its hard to orgasm its not very sure of we are both 42 and have sex with me to scratch any.
Tags: Attractive Woman, Orgasm, Sex Drive
March 9th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
he probably feels embarassed. leave him be for a while and he’ll give it to you when he’s ready.
March 12th, 2009 at 11:00 pm
Some people do lose their sex drive but its rare in men and even rarer in young couples. Do some research and make sure your man isn’t cheating.
March 15th, 2009 at 7:14 am
if he is wetting the bed there is something wrong, he needs to see a doctor and get a prostate exam asap, he could potentially have cancer, get him to see a doctor and make sure he is healthy before pursuing things sexually.
March 17th, 2009 at 8:33 am
It sounds like he needs to have a physical. He may have something seriously wrong with him. Make him an appointment and go with him. Then if nothing is wrong with him buy yourself a toy and lay next to him at night and use it, that should spark his interest.
March 19th, 2009 at 4:09 pm
The man needs to see a Urologist today! If he is wetting the bed and has lost sexual function it could be a serious infection, enlarged prostate or cancer.
There is no need for him to suffer as he can be treated. If he waits to see a doctor it will only make matters worse.
Good luck.
March 22nd, 2009 at 1:42 am
He needs to go to the doctor. He definitely has a prostrate problem. Make him go now.
March 23rd, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Going to the doctor and having tests run is of vital importance here. Something may be physically wrong with him; and the sooner you both find out what it is, the better!
People tend to avoid having these kind of talks; but it’s important that you let him know how concerned and worried you are. He needs to know you are not blaming him; but rather that you are worried about him and his health.
Good luck. If tests show he is physically OK, then I’d ask you to consider having him go to a counselor or therapist. Who knows what is troubling him, and causing this behaviour.
March 26th, 2009 at 11:43 am
You offered him a prostate massage. Wow. What’s your number?
March 29th, 2009 at 1:53 pm
Try taking classes your self for blow jobs get lots of sex tapes play toys etc.. this may help alot….
April 1st, 2009 at 2:00 pm
You didn’t give an age here on either of you. Your husband needs to have a physical exam. There is a condition called hypothyroidsim that can cause this condition. Have him get a physical with blood work to check for this condition. After he starts getting treatment for the thyroid, then get some cialis. Things will improve.
April 4th, 2009 at 1:16 am
Make him go to doctor. Is clear he is sick and men are senstive when it comes to these things.
April 7th, 2009 at 9:26 am
he seriously needs to go to the doctor because what man doesnt like sex? if its not that there might be a possibility that hes doing it with someone else…keep your eyes open
April 9th, 2009 at 4:44 pm
Go to a Dr first..Make sure there is nothing physically wrong with him. If so have it treated and, see where it goes from there.
I do not know how old he is but, I will tell you that it is more common than most people think for guys to lose their sex drive.
It could be anything from low-self esteem, stress, fear of failure, performance anxiety or he might just be tired and, overworked.
Work on becoming intimate in some non sexual ways first (ie: holding hands, hugging, cuddling, relaxing together)
Talk about what might be bothering him but, whatever you do DO NOT pressure him for sex. If you do it will just increase some of the psychological problems he may be having.
In the meantime…get some toys and, take care of yourself. He may find it erotic to watch?
April 12th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
He probably needs to see a doctor about his prostate (urology) and a doctor about checking his hormone level (testosterone). Wetting the bed is probably a carry over from childhood (has he done it all his life?) or another problem that is just developing. Sexually asking, begging, etc. is not a good thing - it usually doesn’t do any good in the long run. If he refuses to get help you need to make some decision on your life and marriage.
April 14th, 2009 at 8:24 am
Is this enough for you to leave him over?
It sounds like you are talking openly and honestly about how you feel and what you are feeling, but he may not be able to talk with you. Maybe you should seek a couples counselor that specializes in sexual relations (or something?) to mediate.
Communication will be the key !!
April 14th, 2009 at 12:48 pm
I think that the genral concensus is that it might be a health problem, and i agree. An ex boyfriend i had suffered from a simular problem and we found out that he was diabetic, but because he was worrying about it maybe being the big C affected his sex drive until he was not able to RISE TO THE OCCASION.
April 16th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
It sounds like you need to schedule two appointments:
1. Contact your doctor and have him help your husband resolve the bed wetting. That’s not normal and could be the sign of serious health problems.
2. Contact a reputable sex therapist. Don’t flinch at the cost. Consider it an investment in your most precious resource, your marriage.